Confidence and Self-Esteem Vital to All

Today I would like to share on improving the confidence and self esteem of your child. I know that this is a huge topic and we will not be able to cover it in any huge detail. But we will give it our best shot.

Most teens have a healthy self esteem and are confident about who they are and where they come from. This is no accident. Their parents have been supportive and helpful in the young child’s endeavors and development. Basically the parents have been there for their teenagers.

They have encouraged and supported the teens to make sure that the teens was successful in whatever they were doing.

The small successes soon become big and the progression is that the teens will be confident to take greater steps and have greater success. The greatest gift that any parent can give their teens LOVE and then after that is faith in the teens ability to succeed. Believing in someone’s ability gives them confidence that they can do it.

When a teen says, “ I am no good, I will never be able to do it..” Shows that the teens has not been encouraged and supported. The teens needs help in developing and building their confidence.

It will have to be done by having small successes and proving to the teens that they can do it and that the teens is capable and that the teens is GOOD.

You as a parent ask yourself, have I encouraged my teens or have I put my teens down? What type of language am I using, is it to my teens benefit? What can I do to make this better? Are you being too critical?

Most parents do not mean to belittle their teens, but in the heat of the moment they do let it slip. “ Little Johnny you are the most useless boy I have ever seen, you keep spilling you milk like a baby.!!!” This certainly does not help little Johnny improve his confidence.

We as parents need to be mindful of what we say to our teens. We need to say encouraging and uplifting things to our teens. Like, great spillage, you need to concentrate on what you are doing and not looking at what is happening on TV when you are pouring the milk into the glass.

By speaking positively and encouragingly to your teens you will see big improvements, especially in confidence and self esteem.

Your teens will not be afraid to make a mistake and will have the confidence to make well defined decisions without fear of failure. You as a parent you will be doing less nagging. Do you want your teens to have low self esteem? If not. Then.......Be positive, Be encouraging, Get to it and Do It! Read Aromatherapy for the Parents of Teenagers

-By Andrew Borodin-